Deep division leaves spouse in the middle

Dear Amy: My spouse and a close friend of ours recently had a heated and deep argument. This involved philosophic and even theological differences, which had never before been revealed.

This unresolved conflict left my spouse unwilling to discuss the subject any further, and our friend hurt and dismayed at the lack of willingness on my spouse’s part for a continued debate on the issue.

I am feeling caught in the middle.

I am trying hard to stay neutral because both people are important to me. Obviously, I am loyal and supportive to my spouse.

However, over the years, I have also become a close confidant to our friend.

At this point, my spouse just wants to move on. But our friend, who we see often, is obviously hurting and feeling betrayed.

That said, as of late, my neutrality…